The Day Before Tomorrow

Feeling good today, friends! Because: vacation. I am a big fan of anticipation. My favorite day of the week is Thursday, so wrought with possibility.  When we were little, my sister and I would spend a week each summer in New York City with our Aunt Catherine. NYC is epic, always has been, always will be, but this was the ‘80s and NYC was authentically cool. Break dancers on street corners cool. Hot pink dollar sign earrings cool. DJ Magic Mike mix tape cool. Understandably, our annual trip was a BIG DEAL. And while the week’s festivities never disappointed (Aunt Cat ran that city) my favorite part was the plane ride there. I can still feel the giddy belly butterflies. Once you were actually in the city the trip was destined to end and with that the return of another sweltering summer in Norfolk, VA.

Tell the truth day! I bought some stuff from J.Crew. Also I forgot to cancel Stitch Fix. Both packages arrived yesterday. As soon as I spotted them at the door my minimalist rationale went out the window. Matt asked if I loved our baby anymore, because she needed to eat and I straight sprinted to her nursery to rip open boxes.

In the light of day I could see that the braided rope belt wasn’t leather and the statement necklace was one that I didn’t need to make. This is when I had what my therapists call a “breakthrough.” Online shopping feeds my anticipation addiction. Until it arrives, anything is possible. The belt could be the link that connects my wardrobe; the vintage cotton v-neck tee might be the last that I’d ever need to buy. Unlike memories of late night cannolis and my first cappuccino in Little Italy or the fourth time we saw Cats!, these unnecessary online purchases left me feeling empty inside. I sent everything back. OK! I kept a pair of denim shorts. One day at a time, people.

Feeling the vacay vibes! Even the rain can’t get me down, or touch my new highlights and spray tan under this jaunty beach hat. 

Outfit details: Original Penguin hat (belongs to Matt, 2013); trusty Joie Military Fatigue Jacket (2014); Gap Women 1969 Destructed Western Denim Shirt (2015); Tinley Road Maya Vegan Grey Leather Shoulder Mini Dress (2013); Salvatore Ferragamo Louisa Silk Scarf as belt (2009); Hunter Boots (gift from sister Emily 2013); Stella & Dot Rebel pendant (2014); Stella & Dot Norah Chandelier earrings (2014); Pave diamond disk necklace (anniversary gift from Matt, 2014)

Great Hair in 5 Steps

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I work in retail. Just like the yogini in Lululemon with her story about Hustle pants or my new BF, the J.Crew dude who told me that my outfit was cute. Every hour of my work day is focused on better ways to sell Cibu. Are we one in the same? Me peddling pomade and them with their seasonal variations on things I already own?

There is a difference. For starters, hair products don’t sit in your closet for years. HALT! If you still own products that you purchased (or I gave you) before 2012 throw them away now. Seriously, they are expired and you don’t even like them because if you did you would have used them all up about - eh -  32 months ago.

You do not need dozens of hair products. You need a relationship with your Stylist so she can craft a haircut appropriate for your lifestyle and teach you how to use the right products to achieve that look at home. What do I mean about lifestyle? Well, how much time do you have? No seriously, how much time do you have to do your hair in the morning? How much time do you have to get your color retouched? Great hair is achieved by managing expectations. You are not Kim Kardashian. Do not go Fashion Week Platinum if you can only get to the salon once a season. 

Because I love you, dear reader, I am going to let you in on the secret to great hair, in 5 steps:

1.       A Stylist to give you a great hair cut and teach you how to use:

2.       Shampoo and Conditioner appropriate for your hair type

3.       Argan oil drops to nourish, add shine and protect hair from heat

4.       Styling Product to smooth hair, set curls or add volume while blow drying

5.       Finishing Product to hold look; enchance shine or add texture

Any questions? For real. I can answer any question you have about hair.

Much like an essential hair care routine, my essential outfit is usually compromised by 5 parts: Base layer (dress; pants or skirt and shirt); Top layer (Jacket, blazer or cardigan); Great shoes; Jewelry; Hermes scarf variation. Here are examples from the past two days.

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Outfit Details: Hermes Eperon d’Or Remix silk maxi twilly scarf (birthday gift from Matt, 2014); Chloe Havana sunglasses (2014); Alice & Olivia black dress (hand-me-down from fashionable co-worker, 2013); BCBG Hi-Lo Dayton cardigan in Poppy (2013); Stella & Dot Norah Chandelier earrings (2014); Stella and Dot Rebel Pendant (2014);  Loeffler Randall Tamsin Haircalf pumps (2014)
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Outfit Details: Hermes silk twill scarf, hand rolled, 36” x 36
Chloe Havana sunglasses (2014); Joie Hooded Military Jacket (2014); Stella & Dot Norah Chandelier earrings (2014); J.Crew rolled sleeve pocket tee in Stripe (2015); J.Crew Minnie Pants (2013); Stella and Dot Rebel Pendant (2014); Loeffler Randall Industry Bag (2014); Seychelles ballerina flats (2013)

Top Image: Cut by Sharon So, Bubbles Towson Town Center; Color by Christopher Houser, Salon Cielo Connecticut Ave, DC; Cibu Knot So Knotty Leave-In Detangler

We Need Space

Yesterday my husband and I were sitting on the couch, I nursing a baby, he nursing a beer, when the toddler crammed his little behind in the middle of us. “Give me space!” He ordered. “I need space!” Dutifully we scooted aside to give the boss a seat.  I started to explain that if he needs space he should go sit on the empty side of the couch and maybe not cram his butt in between two people who are clearly comfortable - but really? Who’s listening?

With tropical travel on the horizon, I am faced with the ultimate wardrobe edit – vacation packing. Determined not to purchase anything new, I set out to cull through my existing warm weather clothes. But where are they? Skinny (ish) casual items are boxed in storage loft, occasion and dry clean selections hang in AJ’s closet and a mix of maternity and summer casual dresses (including nine several Tart Collections frocks that aren’t actually “maternity“ and thereby viable for vacation) are crammed against the wall in the baby’s wardrobe. I am left wondering where anyone else in my family stores clothes. Do they even own clothes? Are my children naked at this very moment? 

It took all weekend to edit my selections. Dozens of additional items were routed to the “donate, consign or give to Pamela” pile and I am reminded of how this whole excess reckoning experiment began – pawing through Pinterest for creative solutions to manage my massive clothing collection. Instead, I will soon live in a world where I can store clothes in the space available to me. Imagine that.

If you like today’s outfit, I will grant you three wishes. Mine are for sleep, a tan and 45 minutes to get a pedicure before Saturday.

Playing it cool with the boss

Outfit details: Chloe Havana sunglasses (2014); Joie Hooded Military Jacket (2014); White + Warren cashmere scarf (2012); South Moon Under indigo hi-lo t-shirt (2012); Joe’s Jeans “Genie” or Slim Jogger Pant (2013); Schutz Lace Cutout Bootie; Stella & Dot Rebel Pendant (2014); Pave diamond disk necklace (Anniversary gift from Matt, 2014) - On AJ: GapKids + JunkFood Spiderman sweater (2014); Seven for all Mankind Brett Jeans (Gilt.com - only $35, don’t judge - 2014); Carter’s socks